you have more control over your life than you give yourself credit for...if you feel your life is out of control, it is not. There are things we can do every day to take more charge in our lives. Instead of sitting their wringing your hands, do something small to take charge. Lastly, always remember that tomorrow is a brand new day and a new day to try again...in case it didn't totally work out today. The most important thing is to keep trying and to not quit.